Giving Days 31, 32, … 50

Another 20 days have past and I have been giving away some serious things. Well, to be honest, ten days ago I was panicking at the office asking people what did I do nicely for them in the past weeks.

You gave me your concealer before that photoshooting.

Great! That’s about the nicest thing I must have done for a guy. 😛 I know, I am modest. Here is a list of the 20 things I gave away the past weeks:

Day 31: I returned two phone battery tanks to their owners.

Day 32: I went to a stranger’s birthday and made them laugh.

Day 33: I shared my date with a friend – I think this was a good deed and, even though I lost my date, I gain a thank you note 😛

Day 34: I said and did how the song goes: “I might hate myself tomorrow, but I am on my way tonight!

Day 35: I donated some of my clothes.

Day 36: I  gave a good advice to someone who needed it

Day 37: I shared my food.

Day 38: I told someone I miss them

Day 39: I gave someone who missed me a very nice phone call

Day 40: I wasn’t mean when I wanted to be

Day 41: I held my tongue when I wanted to speak up harshly

Day 42: I gave a silence treatment pretty well haha

Day 43: I forgave someone for yelling at me and putting me down

Day 44: I gave someone a book

Day 45: I made a shoe compliment to a lady

Day 46: I was friendly and sweet to an asshole boyfriend

Day 47: I let my ex-boyfriend love me

Day 48: I worked hard at work – over my strengths and hours

Day 49: I made dinner for a friend

Day 50: I love some people more than they know!

Damn! that was hard. I imagine you might think these things are super insignificant and don’t really count in real word as givings, but they are all I can remember now for doing well in the last 3 weeks. Some of them are straightforward, but those you don’t understand they are quite private and intimate for me. And remember, this #360GiveChallenge is just for my own development as a human being.

Days 11, 12, … 21: Giving Energy, Smiles, Comments, … Hands & Jumps

It’s been 10 days of me not concentrating on giving one particular thing, but just adapting to the routine of an adult. I started working on a full-time schedule in an office with lots of different characters.

It has been interesting, fun, exciting, stressful, funny, boring, hard, annoying … you name it. Just like any other job, right?

Work. Work. Work. If you say it fast enough I will think it sounds like twerk. No? Oh, well… This is the funniest I can be now. However, I’ve been giving a lot. Of myself mainly. Using my own energy to make people enjoy themselves around me.

Day 11: I worked out at home until I couldn’t move my glutes properly. I still have some unwanted stomach fat which I am giving away for free!! Anyone?? 😀 #365GiveChallenge

Day 12: I worked extra hours unpaid just so I could make my superiors proud of me. And myself. Not sure the stress I put myself through was any other good than learning not to do it again.

Day 13: I was nice to a couple of people. I didn’t tell them anything negative and I made them smile with a few honest compliments.

Day 14: I made someone a sandwich.

Day 15: I gave so many damns tears came as a bonus.

Day 16: I gave away bits of my confidence and energy someone got a fantasy come true. Somewhere in Australia.

Day 17: I gave someone a page from my diary where I wrote my honest feelings about them

Day 18: I gave a great feedback to my supervisor. Really. They should promote me!

Day 19: I sent my good thoughts to someone in the past.

Day 20: I kissed a boy. 🙈 Very altruistic of me, right?

Day 21: I started volunteering for Techfestival. So see you there this week!

 

Techfestival volunteers
Techfestival 2017 crew

 

Day 9: Giving to Women in Focus

Women in Focus is a new project that aims to a world of equality! Isn’t that wonderful?

Its founder, the lovely Rikke Topp, is a Danish former top director of a multinational company who believes in following your heart. After fifteen years of executive leadership experience, Rikke left her comfort zone to discover her true self. Her journey took her to the Middle East and the Muslim culture. This inspired her to initiate the organization Women in Focus. 

She is one of the most inspiring women I’ve met. From the way she built her career in the business world within different companies and Danish culture, to the way she found her calling in the Eastern Desert. It’s absolutely inspiring to know a character who has been contributing to on society for so many years and suddenly wanting to contribute to an entirely different nation and culture.

 

Rikke’s mission is to build “pilot houses” for women who are not as lucky as the rest of us when having access to learning how to read, create things or even have a safe place to pray. Especially for the Bedouin women who are still undermined in both Israeli and their own societies. In the Bedouin culture, there is no equality between men and women, and Rikke believes she can make a difference in helping the women integrate into society so they can be more independent.

But she can’t do it alone and I, among many others inspired by her story, asked her how can I help. First, I started with my knowledge in Crowdfunding. The Women in Focus has a great story behind its entrepreneur, had a great cause and a lot of people would feel honored to be part of its mission. Currently, the organization is planning the campaign and I can’t wait to see the video!

You can help too just by giving it a like here 🙂  If you want to know more about the story and the woman behind it, Rikke is presenting (in Danish) her first book Hvem er jeg? in Horsens, next week.

Equality means treating everyone with love and honesty and recognizing the needs of individuals.

You can click here to make a donation and help the project.

 

 

Day 7: Giving Muffins

On my last day before starting my new job,  I baked two dozens of banana muffins. I packed them in different small paper bags, put them in my bike’s basket and started a trip of delivery. I also bought some cute yellow flowers which fit just lovely on my red bike.

I called a few people to see if they’re home – most of them were busy or out of town. Sorry guys, now you know what you missed! So when I left the city I still had few muffins left. Whom should I give them to? I was just passing my ex’s work place and my first instinct was to stop, walk in and give him a muffin. But I just offered him a breakup… what would the muffin mean? Would he think I am bipolar and changed my mind, that I still wanna keep in touch or maybe he’ll just remind me that he’s vegan and refuse my gift? Too many possibilities. By the time I considered them all, I was already gone and is quite uncomfortable to turn while I am biking.

So, I made a couple of friends richer with a few banana muffins. Then it started raining.

Great day! 🌦

PS: I didn’t do the muffins as part of my 365Give Challengee, but because baking is one of my hobbies. So contact me if you need a muffin baker – I can make it for money too! 😉

 

Day 4: Giving Mattress #2 and an Apple Pie

Yes, another mattress has found itself – with my help – a new owner.

I made a good apple crumble pie and shared it with friends.  I am good at baking – should do it more often.

I gave back the 10 kroner I owed to the bakery store on my street. The lady was surprised and thanked me like it was a gift. Hehe 😀

And I gave myself…a break. Not from giving, but from stressing out. 🙂

 

Day 3: Giving Support

You know it’s true what they say about saying “yes”? Yes, you do. Since I started this #365give Challenge and became more open to giving things, good things happened to me. I even got some tax money back! 😀 But the coolest thing is meeting some really interesting people. One of them is Leo Yankton, a Native American from Oglala Lakota, Pine Ridge Reservation.

You know that moment when you’re watching a YouTube video of someone and next thing they are texting you on Facebook? yup. While watching the video below, Leo texted me saying:

Hello, my EXTREMELY beautiful new friend and ally… I was told you may be able to help me link to people who would want to help with crowd funding my White Clay Nebraska Tipi manufacturing company I am going to start to help replace the despair that placed caused for over a hundred years feeding my tribe alcohol (Oglala Lakota) let me know if you have any advice or assistance you’re willing to bless me with.

Now, I didn’t share this to make you curious about how beautiful I am – because you know it… he meant it spiritually – but to take the message as it was sent to you. And now you can join me and Leo into this communal mission of helping people.

This is the first time when I am doing a research on Native Americans and I have to say it’s overwhelming… It reminded me the things I’ve heard and seen about the Aboriginals in Australia and what they went through. Using the same addictive substances from alcohol and sugar, Leo’s tribe has been going through hell not having the chance to better lives.

After having a thought childhood with no electricity, no dad, not enough clothes for school, Leo moved away to the city where he cut his hair and stopped his traditional practices. For him to feel accepted and liked, he started fighting and soon he believed to be a popular awesome kid. Unfortunately, it took him some jail time to realize how superficial and unlike him were all those things. Soon after he went back to his cultural singing, and his spirituality, Leo started building the good life that he’s having now.

Last year, Leo was an active part of the water protection at the Standing Rock camps. He said in an interview for Danwatch:

Standing Rock was an awakening. A worldwide awakening. And it was an awakening of the mainstream. At Standing Rock people were abused by the police who were protecting the oil corporation. People would come to the camp to heal and they would feel extremely welcomed in the camp, so the abuses didn’t matter that much as the spiritual experience. 

Watch the documentary about the protests at Standing Rock on Netflix. Trailer:

At Standing Rock, he was giving people supplies and in return, they gave him a teepee. That’s how he came up with the idea of starting a manufacturing tipi company that could create jobs for his people.

Asked about the differences between the Native culture and the American one, Leo says is like comparing an eagle to a pig. Eagles fly calmly while pigs consume everything in a filthy way. He also believes that there is “an ongoing movement for going back to being an eagle – spiritual – where everyone could become indigenous to planet Earth again”.

Watch Leo’s story and feel free to contact me or him if you have any ideas on how he can have a successful crowdfunding campaign to make a change in people’s lives.

I wish he would be successful and transform WhiteClay – what is now a ghost town – a great start for Leo’s tribe to a better life!

Oh, what I gave to Leo was my pieces of advice on how he should start and run a crowdfunding campaign. And even though the crowdfunding was my master’s thesis subject, I am still not sure which crowdfunding platform would be best for Leo’s project to start his business. We were discussing GoFundMe.com or OneMission.fund. Do you have any ideas which one would help him the most? 😀

 

Day 2: Giving Virtual Hugs

I am really grateful for my friends keeping up with my travels and movings while living abroad. They move around too, but not like me, so we have to Skype, Facetime or WhatsApp. I can imagine most people do it these days, but sometimes it can feel even better than in real life. Mostly because of the comfort one can get being in bed, wearing PJs and moving around the house.

Sometimes we don’t talk for days, sometimes for weeks and, with some people, the connection breaks for years. But then when it’s back again, you just know that’s the core of your friendship.

So this is how you learn giving virtual hugs.

Also, today I gave lots of money to the local store, does that count? 😅